Learning about the term ‘multi-passionate’ and the fact that I am multi-passionate, the happier I have become. I started to gain the clarity that I needed to move my life forward.
I have always had problems answering questions that require a favourite or an ultimatum.
“What do you like to do?”
“What is your hobby?”
“What do you want to be when you grow up?”
People expect you to have a certain set of answers. Anything beyond that would mean I don’t really know what I like or I have to choose one (or a few) to settle upon.
Things get worse as an adult.
“What do you do?”
“What’s your life purpose?”
“What’s God calling for you?”
Not having ONE ultimate answer to these questions would mean you aren’t living your life right.
I spent too many years of my life being paralyzed and worrying about that ONE thing I am supposed to be focusing on. I listened to too many people. Not too mention, my almost non-existent self-discipline didn’t make things any better.
I think the society is too caught up with finding THE RIGHT ONE. The right partner, the right job, the right house, the right purpose, the right calling, the right everything!
I used to be a huge FOBO (Fear Of Better Options). I always worry that if I were to walk through one door, the other doors would close and I will never be able to go back. EVER. Even windows would be closed. I would be trapped, forever regretting my decision.
How did I get over my FOBO?
I failed. At many things. Many times. And each time, I realised I got back up. Life is still great.
I choose to stop being unhealthily obsessed with making the right choices.
Everyone makes mistakes. Why do I think I will be the perfect one who wouldn’t? Learn from it and move on.
I choose to stop listening to what everyone has got to say.
I learn to take advice without losing myself.
I choose to stop trying to find and focus on one thing.
I tried and I have never felt more dead.
I choose to just get started and see what unfolds for me.
Dabble, dabble, dabble. Then eliminate. If I don’t try, I would never know how it would be like. If I fail or I realised it’s just ‘meh’, I can move forward without EVER thinking about it again.
I choose to lower my ego and learn that it is ok to be unsuccessful at things.
Being unsuccessful is such a taboo. I have failed and I am bound to fail again at something, sometime. So, what?
Now, I want to do as many things I like as much as possible. I do a lot of different things.
I help create and build brands.
I do marketing.
I do public relations.
I do design work.
I do social media.
I do event management.
I do copywriting.
I give talks.
I teach communication.
I create and conduct children’s camps.
I teach children English, Arts & Craft, Science, Storytelling etc
…and there are more things I will do. This doesn’t mean I am a jack of all trades and master of none; it means I have a unique set of skills from a rich and varied career (multi-passions). What I bring to the table is my own mix of expertise and experiences that bring added value to my business and my clients.
I am multi-passionate; having different interests and skills is great! I am no longer feeling lost that I have yet found the one job I’m supposed to be stuck with the rest of my life. It’s a journey of discovery. I am learning so much from it, I’m contributing and I am happy.
I know the values and things that are important to me and I know how I want to impact the lives of others. That’s what’s important, regardless of what I choose to do.
Clarity comes from engagement, not thought.
– Marie Forleo
Stop thinking and worrying. Move and take action now.