If you are depressed, feeling sad or hurt, I am sorry. I am sorry you have to go through what you are going through.
I have been depressed. I have friends who are depressed and I have a friend who committed suicide because of depression. I know what depression can do.
I know depression comes in different degrees and forms. Some deep depression requires medical and professional attention. What I am sharing here is in no way trying to belittle or trivialise your pain.
Do you feel your sadness is different from other sadness you’ve experienced and it’s slowly affecting your daily life? Do you have these symptoms of depression?
If you are feeling lost, feeling extremely worried and fearful, feeling really sad and hurt, traumatised or broken, get help. You don’t have to wait till you are torn apart inside out before getting help.
If you have a fever, you take an aspirin. If it doesn’t get any better, you see a doctor. You don’t wait till your body is burning at 40°c, your head spinning and you get infection etc before getting medical attention, right?
So, why wait to seek help for your mental health? There is absolutely no shame in taking care of your mind. We put so much emphasis on caring for our beauty, our body, our spirituality, our work etc, why are we neglecting our mental well being?
Just like any sickness, sometimes you just need a lot of rest and it will go away. Sometimes, you are not feeling well and you don’t even know what’s wrong until you see the doctor. The faster you seek medical attention in the early stages, the faster you get better. And yes, like some sicknesses, it doesn’t go away but with the right treatment, you will have a better quality of life.
Those who judge you can take the time machine and travel back to the dinosaur age!
Your life is in your hands. What other people say is a load of fertilisers. You do what’s best for you. Do not dwell in your suffering. While you still can, help yourself to get better.
Help is everywhere. The people around you, NGOs, books, podcasts, Youtube videos, counsellors, psychiatrists, church… help is there. Reach out.
Take steps to make yourself better, on purpose.
I know the first step is always the hardest. Sometimes some things don’t work out. Sometimes stupid people judge you. Sometimes it’s hard to trust anyone and keeping things to yourself seems much easier. It is! But, you won’t get better, you’ll only get worse.
Beating depression is not an easy thing. On good days, you get up and have hope that things will get better. On bad days, you feel like it’s a constant uphill climb.
Don’t give up! You are not alone. Believe that there is always hope, even if it doesn’t seem like it at the moment.
I came across this touching story about a woman who lost her husband and child in a plane crash. She couldn’t see beyond a day. One thing that struck me about her testimonial was, she sought help from a psychiatrist just 3 weeks after the accident. She did not delay getting the help she needed. She took proactive steps to get better. She took control of her life back.
“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.”
– Helen Keller
There are many organisations out there that you can seek help. Many of them offer their services for free. Just Google and find the ones nearest to you. Do it TODAY.
“Victory is always possible for the person who refuses to stop fighting.”
– Napoleon Hill
“The LORD makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him; though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with his hand.”
– Psalm 37:23-24