We all make decisions every day. Some small and irrelevant while others big and life changing. We have to make decisions for ourselves because if not, others will make it for us, whether we like it or not.
Whatever challenges life presents us, we think about what to do, what not to do, and what would be “best” for us and for everyone around us. It’s important to think things through, but don’t use thinking as a way to avoid action.
Overthinking is a toxic habit. Be aware and beware of it.
Sleepless nights. Confusion. Indecisiveness. Uncertainty. Not knowing what to do and the fear of making the wrong decision is paralysing.
The analysis paralysis as people call it. You find yourself stuck in a loop of constant analysing without taking any action at all. You get into a place of assumptions, suppositions and irrational predictions. You feel that if you think longer and harder, the evidence of the right thing to do will somehow be apparent to you.
I am one who tends to overthink too much. I have lost count on the many opportunities that I have missed simply because I overthink things. My thoughts and worries overwhelm me with such intensity that I lie awake at night thinking and thinking. The ‘should’s and the ‘what if’s will be racing through my mind all day and night.
What if I am not good enough?
Am I ready for this?
What if I am wrong?
What if I fail?
What if this is a huge mistake?
What if I hate it?
What if I quit after a few months?
What would people think of me?
Should I listen to this or that person?
I hated that feeling and I didn’t want to feel that way anymore. So, I started learning from big decision makers, read books and listen to podcasts about it. Soon, I started to have more and more of what I call ‘the Nike moment’. The moments when I JUST DO IT.
Do I still worry and overthink? Of course! But, I snap myself out of it almost immediately because I know it does me harm and absolutely no good. I continuously practice what I’ve learnt and making big decisions gets easier each time.
Remember, overthinking does not lead to insight. Clarity comes from doing, not thinking. Don’t spend so much time thinking instead of doing. Do it, then know, then decide. Have you heard the phrase ‘You never try, you never know’? It’s true.
You cannot predict the future. Isn’t it crazy to expect yourself to know the result of a race that hasn’t even started yet? If we all would ONLY do what we know is a sure win, all the wonderful things that were built through overcoming challenges and trial and error would never exist.
Know that your decision will never be final. You will not be stuck in the same job for the rest of your life. You will not be a failure forever just in case you fail this one thing. You will not even like what you like today, tomorrow.
So, don’t worry about the perfection of your decisions. Stop overthinking and start doing.