The one constant in life is change. We experience changes in life, big or small, every single day. Whenever we speak about transitions, what usually comes to mind are the major ones – graduation, marriage, a new job, moving to a new city, buying your first house, a breakup or a loss of a loved one.
With all these major transitions, we undergo huge changes on multiple levels (physically psychologically, emotionally, socially, financially, spiritually) as we adjust and adapt to our identities, roles, freedoms, and responsibilities. Even happy transitions, can be stressful and bring up mixed feelings.
We all know how important it is for us to be able to manage these major transitions well so that we can successfully move ahead and continue to live to our fullest.
Now, the transitions that I want to share about here is the smaller ones in our lives. Transitions that are happening every single day. So frequent and automatic that most of us don’t even think about it. I definitely didn’t until I read about it recently. I learned that these transitions play an important role in our well being and success (and helps us tremendously in bigger transitions).
So, what kind of transition am I talking about?
When you wake up every morning, get out of bed and start your day – a transition from rest to activity.
When you stop your work and go for lunch – a transition from your current work in hand to a break.
When you are enjoying your shopping alone and return home to your kids at home – a transition from me-time to family time.
When you go home to your family from the office – a transition from a working professional to a parent and a husband/wife.
When you go from creative mode to answering emails mode.
I think you get the idea. We all have a series of transitions in our daily lives.
Let’s take some time to ponder about these transitions. These transitions are a valuable and powerful free time and space between our major activities. Decisions made during these transitions will affect how our day goes.
In a decade of coaching high performers, I’ve found that the easiest, fastest, and most effective way to help them increase their energy is to teach them to master transitions.
– Brendan Burchard
Do you ever carry over any negative energy from one activity to the next?
Do you lose appreciation and patience for life and others the further you go in your day?
Do you ever feel absolutely drained but instead of taking a break, you insist on ploughing through whatever you’re doing?
Do you lose your sense of the present?
If we can change the way we transition from one activity to the next, we can revitalize our life.
How then should we manage these shifts from one activity to another?
A deliberate practice of deep breaths, mindfulness and purposefully setting an intention to how you want to feel as you move to the next activity can help you manage stress and achieve more of your day.
You can try this RELEASE TENSION, SET INTENTION practice by Brendan Burchard. I do something similar but I make tiny tweaks to it to fit what I feel works best for me and empowers me the most.
From now on, as you move from one activity to another, try this:
- Close your eyes for a minute or two.
- Repeat the word RELEASE in your mind over and over.
Command your body to release all the tension in your shoulders, in your neck, in your face and jaw. Release the tension in your back and your legs.
Release the tension in your mind and spirit.
If this is hard, just focus on each part of your body, breathe deeply, and repeat the word release in your mind. This doesn’t have to take long—just a minute or two repeating the word release.
- When you feel you’ve released some tension—and it doesn’t have to be all the tension in your life!—move to the next part.
- SET INTENTION. This means think about what you want to feel and achieve in the next activity you’re about to take on when you open your eyes.
Ask, “What energy do I want to bring into this next activity?
How can I do this next activity with excellence?
How can I enjoy the process?
These don’t have to be the exact questions you ask, but these are the kind of question that will prompt your mind to be more present in the next activity.
Give this a try. Nothing works unless you do.